Getting On + Getting Off: Justin Lehmiller
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Welcome to Getting On and Getting Off, the first WLS mini-series, on aging and sex and sexuality, even menopause.
I conducted most of these interviews for This is Nashville – the daily show of my former station, Nashville Public Radio – which earlier this year brought me on to help produce the series Next Age, on aging, intimacy and more. I gathered so much material that couldn’t make it into their show, so I’m using it for my own look at what it means to get off as we get on in life. Especially the massive myth that sex gets worse with age.
Why should it? As we become more comfortable with and aware of our bodies, desires and pleasure, sexual satisfaction increases…with some clauses.
First, human bodies can’t do everything at 58 or 88 that they could at 28. Spoiler alert, the biggest predictors of happy, healthy sexy time at any age are 1) communication and 2) expanding beyond just the P-in-V, penis in vagina, model, which causes so much confusion and frustration and is the reason why essentially everybody else is having more orgasms than heterosexual women.
First up in the series is Dr, Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist and senior research fellow at the Kinsey Institute, one of the world’s leading research centers on sex, gender and reproduction. Justin also hosts the Sex and Psychology podcast, and, I recently found out, sexology research trips abroad that I just might join one day,
Our conversation includes his research on sexual fantasies and aging, and how older men fantasize more about romance than older women, who however are more sexually satisfied. Justin also shares his findings on the importance of masturbating for menopause, and why we have to stop scaring women about the transition, especially when so many enjoy the pregnancy-free sexy time.
Justin also reminded me of the enraging fact that US medical schools still only tend to spend 10 hours on sexual education, across the entire four years. So, sure, we’ve come a long way, baby, but have so much further to go.
Links to his research & other resources discussed can be found in the episode transcript.
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